Pick up any women’s magazine and you’re sure to find at least one article that tells you how to tell if a guy is interested or how to know for sure if he’s really into you. Pick up any men’s magazine and you’re bound to find at least one article that tells you how to make women think that you’re a sex god.
Since all magazines seem to believe in following set patterns and stereotypes you’re never going to find an article that explains things that you really want to know. Like how do you know when you meet the right person? Or for that matter how are guys supposed to know when the girl is interested?
Since I’m at that stage where everyone and their brother want to see you ‘settled’ and keep forwarding names/ numbers/ photographs/ biodatas of ‘good’ members of the opposite sex I’m in a quandary trying my level best to figure out what exactly constitutes ‘good’.
Consultations with my ‘Happily Married’ cousins/ friends/ sisters did not help. People bandied about things like – “you’ll know the minute you see her that she’s the right one?” Hello? How the hell is that going to happen? Magic? Hocus Pocus anyone?
The truth of the matter as I see it is that you really never know. I didn’t create any ideals in my mind because I didn’t want to be disappointed with life. But that didn’t really help. In a very short span of time I’ve got to go and see some people and make a decision that is going to affect my entire life.
The slightest slip up could leave me with a harridan who’ll feast on my soul and ensure that I never have a moment’s peace for the rest of my sorry life. Incessant demands will become the order of the day and keeping up with /ahead of the Joneses my sole reason for living. Pandering to her whims and fancies will suck away my essential life force, eating away the vitality of my youth while precipitating premature baldness. Not a pretty picture I tell you.
I could get lucky and find a girl who is actually normal and ‘sensible’ but then the chances of that happening are about as bright as my being crowned the King of England and ensuring a reign of peace that lasts for five hundred years. Get Real!
One thing I do know now is that boys are as scared of marriage as girls are, and surprise, surprise for the exact same reasons that girls are! (And thanks to me you do too.)
Any one with any sage advice is welcome to get back to me.
2 comments:
hello my dear
it may a bit bitter truth but still true that nature never ceated a perfect creature so far???
so what you call sense may be nonesense for some one else.
nobody is going to approve your all actions as everybody has a different set of thinking pattern.
however i belive that if you cannot marry the person you love, love the person you marry
Hi Madhukar...I'd meant to comment on one your HR posts (having reached your blog from HR Professionals!) but well, this post has really caught my interest. Possibly because I've been married for a number of years and am still at an early stage of setting myself up as an HR professional!
My two bits on finding a life partner: keep your eyes and mind open, believe in equality of sexes, respect the opinion of women friends, don't decide on a life partner on the basis of 2 meetings arranged by the parents, and let the experience happen to you - when it does happen...cheers, Jyoti
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